A Divorce Professional You Can Trust

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John Borders

John has spent the past 20+ years providing and supervising clinical care for families and children. His experience includes working with high-conflict parents, divorcing families, runaway youth, and traumatized-abused-neglected children in a wide variety of mental settings including public and private agencies, hospitals, residential facilities, and schools. He focuses his practice on co-parenting relationships with high-conflict parents, parent-child relation problems, and families.

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Experience

Clinical Therapist - Focusing on divorce-related parent conflict, parent-child relation problems and families

Clinical Director, Kids In The Middle - Provided and supervised treatment for more than 300 families dealing with divorce annually

Director of Outpatient Services, The Child Center - Provided diagnostic services, intensive day treatment, and residential care for children and their families

Family Therapist, Youth Emergency Services - Reunited runaway youth with their families

Adolescent and Family Therapist, SSM Health DePaul Hospital - Treated children and their families as inpatients and outpatients

Manager, St. Louis Mental Health Center

  • Affiliated with BJC Behavioral Health
  • Division of the Missouri Department of Mental Health
  • Worked with severely emotionally disturbed families to keep children in their homes

Washington University and St. Louis University - Field instructor for graduate students

  • Licensed Clinical Social Worker
  • Court-Approved Divorce Mediator
  • Court-Approved Parenting Coordinator
  • Collaborative Divorce Coach and Child Specialist
  • Certified Level I and II EMDR Therapist
  • AB, Princeton University
  • MSW, George Warren Brown School at Washington University, St. Louis — Family Concentration, Eleanor Roosevelt Fellow
  • Advanced Psychodynamic Psychotherapy Program — St. Louis Psychoanalytic Institute
  • Association of Family and Conciliation Courts, St. Louis
  • Psychotherapy St. Louis
  • St. Louis Psychological Association
  • Association of Divorce Professionals
  • Collaborative Family Law Association, St. Louis
  • Missouri Collaborative Institute

INTERVENTION WITH HIGH-CONFLICT PARENTS
Care & Counseling

WORKING WITH DIVORCE-RELATED PARENT CONFLICT
Psychotherapy St. Louis

CO-PARENTING COUNSELING - WHAT IS IT / HOW TO USE IT / HOW TO MAKE IT WORK
Missouri Association of Family and Conciliation Courts

DIVORCE TRAUMA: PREVENTION, TREATMENT, AND MANAGEMENT
Missouri Association for Marriage and Family Therapy & St. Louis University

WEBS OF (FAMILY) INTERACTION
Collaborative Family Law Association

ALIENATION: NOW THAT WE SEE IT, WHAT NEXT?
Missouri Association of Family and Conciliation Courts

DIVORCE INTERVENTIONS
Paule, Camazine, Blumenthal - Family Law Lunch

HIGH-CONFLICT DIVORCE: ESTABLISHING CONSTRUCTIVE CO-PARENTING RELATIONSHIPS
Missouri Association for Marriage and Family Therapy & The School of Professional Psychology at the Forest Institute

FAMILY TRANSFORMATIONS: HIGH-CONFLICT DIVORCE
Psychotherapy St. Louis Annual Conference

SYSTEMS THEORY
Collaborative Family Law Association

FAMILY & COLLABORATIVE SYSTEMS
Collaborative Family Law Association

ESTABLISHING CONSTRUCTIVE CO-PARENT COMMUNICATIONS IN HIGH CONFLICT DIVORCE
Association of Missouri Mediators

COLLABORATIVE MULTI-SYSTEM DIVORCE INTERVENTIONS
Psychotherapy St. Louis

HOW TO HELP KIDS CAUGHT IN THE MIDDLE OF SEPARATION
KWMU, St. Louis on the Air

PARENTING AFTER SEPARATION
Jewish Family Services of Milwaukee

WORKING TOGETHER TO MEET THE NEEDS OF FAMILIES
Association of Family and Conciliation Courts

OPPOSITIONAL DEFIANT DISORDER & CONDUCT DISORDERS
Child Center of Our Lady

TRAUMA & CHILDREN
KSDK - Channel 5

What Clients Say

"My ex-wife and I could not communicate or agree on anything. John gave us a safe, neutral place to talk about our kids.”

- Josh B.

"The most knowledgeable and experienced guy about divorce, the courts, the attorneys, and child therapists around."

- James L.

"My husband and I couldn't agree on anything — the kid's sports, activities, ANYTHING. John Borders kept us out of court and cost much less than either of our two attorneys.”

- Beth Z.

“We had been battling in and out of court for eight years until we found Dr. Borders. Now we have someone to go to who can resolve our problems without our having to go back to court."

- Lane R.

"Most therapists list twenty-five areas of ‘specialization.’ (Ridiculous!) John Borders is a guy who deals with one thing — divorce-related parent conflict. He knows his stuff!”

- Tina O.

"John saved our family. Our oldest son was out of control and John brought us all back together again.”

- Michael P.

What Professionals Say

"I refer my most difficult cases to him. No one else is willing to take them on — or can handle them.”

- Beth J.

"I am family attorney. When I have a high-conflict divorce case, I try to involve John. He has the ability, and takes the time, to become thoroughly familiar with families. He keeps me informed and explains exactly what's going on without prejudice to either party.”

- William G.

"I am a child therapist. When John refers a child to me, I know that I'm going to be kept fully informed about that child's context, i.e., what's going on with the parents. And I know that I can totally trust him.”

- Julie P.

"Great to work with."

- George L.